Think Positive About Your Self Confidence!

As is our confidence, so is our capacity.

William Hazlitt

Don't Stop Believing

A person’s self-confidence is their ability to believe in themselves. People with a high self-confidence are optimistic, assertive, and eager individuals ready to take on the world and conquer the goals. On the other hand, people with a low self-confidence find themselves often distant and despondent, constantly questioning themselves and often passive or submissive. Self-confidence is the key to succeeding in your relationships, academic pursuits, athletic activities, employment field, and private life. Individuals that entertain a high sense of self confidence usually go on to individual success, whereas individuals with a low sense of self confidence tend to be brought down by their inner negative, limiting beliefs.

The trap of low self-confidence is extremely easy to fall into and extremely difficult to remove oneself. That tiny voice in the back of your head that criticizes, questions, and insults can easily grow louder and louder the more you listen. Instead of boosting themselves up by enjoying their accomplishments or congratulating themselves on a job well done, individuals with low self-esteem the negative inner voice which is constantly picking and finding fault amid triumph. Often believing something good could not possibly happen to them possibly linked to another negative experience.

Think Think Think

They key to maintaining a high self-esteem is positive thinking. Individuals that think of themselves in a positive light are more likely to have a higher self-confidence than those nay-sayers in the crowd. One way to remain positive and keep an upbeat aura is to surround yourself with positive people. Avoid individuals who criticize, nit-pick, and put you down. These negative individuals are a sinking ship and will only bring you down with them. By surrounding yourself with positive people, you will find it easier to build and maintain your high sense of self-worth and overturn the negative voices. If you find yourself in a situation where you must deal with individuals with a negative outlook, confront them on the matter. Often, office gossip, school yard taunts, or home issues bury themselves deep within our minds and wreak havoc on our self-confidence. Instead of allowing yourself to be burdened by these harmful words and thoughts, fight back! Flip the narrative. Refuse to allow toxic relationships of any sort to dictate the narrative you need to be self-confident. Boundaries are needed against negative voices. If the individuals refuse to cease, continue, or even worsen their actions, then break apart from the trend of negativity. Unfortunately, this may mean ending relationships, both personal and job related.

I'll Be There For You

If you find yourself surrounded by so-called friends, colleagues, or acquaintances who constantly make you feel poorly about yourself and lower your self-confidence, it might be time to part ways. Remember, friends, family, and loved ones are supposed to make you feel good about yourself and have your best interest at heart. This is not always the case and friends by title alone can do more harm than most enemies. Furthermore, personal relationships can have the same—if not worse—effect on one's self-confidence level. Quite often, individuals in abusive relationships find themselves despondent and upset about their situation. If a loved one is making you feel poorly about yourself by constant criticism, abusive language, and distrusting actions, drastic circumstances may be due. Make the case for a change in the relationship and make your loved one understand what his or her words, thoughts, or actions do to your self-confidence. If this fails, you may need to make a painful break, but remember, your loved ones and true friends are supposed to always love and support you. If someone is failing to do so, they are not fulfilling their role in your life. At times, there are necessary endings. You are the average of your five closest friends. Positive thinking will reveal those individuals who are ready to come along side you and be a part of your future success.

First Steps

Your first step to increasing your self-confidence is to start today. Each day you delay is another day the past wins. However you choose to begin building your self-confidence, do so today! Be thorough and consistent with the process and be aware it may take a while. You should not become impatient or despondent if you find your self-confidence slipping. Choose to have grace with yourself. Remember, you are an important and worthy person and should treat yourself as such.

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